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Oh, flist, I need your help. I met with the minister who's doing the funeral service for my dad, and he wanted to know what kind of music to use, just a couple things, he said, but I have no idea what to use. I don't want to default to Amazing Grace, just... you know, because. Dad wasn't a music person much, not really, and we weren't even allowed to listen to pop music when I was a little kid because classical was all there was in my faux-intellectual household. Also, bagpipes. I don't even know.

Dad loved bagpipes, but I don't know that that's good small-service funeral stuff. A lot of people also don't like them. I was thinking maybe something a little lower key, like Uillean pipes, but I don't know of anything off the top of my head that might fit. I was going to go through some of my Celtic music, but the truth is, I haven't got time. I'm so behind on my work and my Festivid (though I finally was able to lay down a whole 30 seconds last night, W00t?) that searching through my music just fills me with dread.

So I turn to you. I only need a few things, but I am very open to suggestions on something peaceful but not gloomy, and bonus points for something vaguely Scottish. (On a side note, boy, do I wish I'd bought the vinyl of the soundtrack to the movie Restless Natives, done by Big Country, back when it was around. That would have been perfect.)


Planning this thing has been really difficult. There's just so much to do. And I don't want to do any of it. Even though I've increased my anti-depressant dosage, I'm still just really struggling to get out of bed in the morning. Tilda was the main thing getting me up, but now that she's gone (sob), I just don't want to deal with anything. It's a different kind of depression, too, than I had about my sister. I think it's just that I feel so goddamn alone. Losing Sandy this year, and then Dad, it's just too much, I think. I would like to do something like go to Hawaii and sit on a beach or go on some exotic cruise, but I'm totally alone. Everything just feels really pointless.

Couple that with the fact that I hate ceremonies and there's no one here to help me through this one, I just want to hide. They were asking me about catering for it and I was all flaily, like "I don't want people to linger! I want them to go the fuck home and not talk to me!" But I can't say that. People want closure, they want to feel like they're contributing. However, the things I want them to do, since they keep offering in the most insistent way, they won't or can't do. So I have to put on my smiley face when I really just want to make them go away, and go back to bed.

I also want to read Yuletide fic. I've managed to squeeze in two whole stories beyond my own, but that's not nearly enough.

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Dec. 30th, 2011 01:32 am (UTC)
*sends you approximately a billion hugs* My thoughts have been with you. So much.

You know, there's some really beautiful music on the original Riverdance soundtrack. One song that has stayed with me - The Heart's Cry - but some beautiful instrumental/combined pieces, like Lament, and Lift the Wings, etc. I know, I know, Riverdance. But seriously. There's some pretty music on there. They do use Irish bagpipes, and it does sound more Irish than Scottish, but it's all quite lovely.

Edited at 2011-12-30 01:32 am (UTC)
Dec. 30th, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)

It's so hard to bury your parents -- we did all sorts of things "wrong" with Dad's. "Wrong" in that it bothers me *now* but it was the best we could do with what we had.

"The Bonnie Banks o' Loch Lomond" would be my go-to for Scottish and funereal.

Loreena McKennitt's "Bonny Portmore" might also work.
Dec. 30th, 2011 02:01 am (UTC)
"Amazing Grace" does not have to be bagpipes, truly. It is absurdly beautiful even as a simple piano tune.

If you want background music, Elgar has some lovely pieces. And ask the minister if s/he has a music director that can help you. That's what they're there for.

I wish I could help.
Dec. 30th, 2011 02:45 am (UTC)
Did your father have any CDs he particularly liked?

I am drawing a complete blank, as usual, but I am thinking supportive thoughts.
Dec. 30th, 2011 03:03 am (UTC)

I like this version of Amazing Grace:

This music is gorgeous--The song featured in this video is "We Will Remember Them" and features Isla St Clair singing "Flowers of the Forest," followed by a bagpipe lament played by Pipe Major Brian Heriot. Available at ITunes:
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/pipes-drums-from-helmand-to/id441370539?uo=4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LnLz6mVUk4

Another song for the pipes if you go that direction--Farewell to Lord Louis Mountbatten:

If you like classical: Albinoni Adagio in G Minor is lovely.I couldn't find the James Galway version, but the cello one by Julian Lloyd Webber is one of my favorites, too: http://www.youtu.be/watch?v=AHkpzVAOZ_0

And this Bach Prelude from Cello Suite No.1 in G is so poignant:
Dec. 30th, 2011 07:30 am (UTC)
Re: music
HOW have I managed to go through life without hearing Isla St. Clair before?! That is lovely. I DLed the link from iTunes and there was another lovely song there, called Fare Thee Well, that I think will work well. Found some other ones poking around in the suggestions. But wow, she's lovely and I can't believe I didn't know about her (so much for my being songclopedia!).

I've always loved the Albinoni Adagio -- I have it on my favorite record, which I got from mom and dad years ago, and pretty much all the songs on it are my favorites, especially the Meditation from Thais and the adagio. I'll make them a disc and just let them pick.
Dec. 30th, 2011 03:29 am (UTC)
I was going to also recommend Riverdance. And I'm sending you massive hugs.
Dec. 30th, 2011 04:41 am (UTC)
Seems like every (Irish) funeral I go to, there's one rendition or another of "Danny Boy". (Sometimes even with bagpipes.)

Dec. 30th, 2011 05:05 am (UTC)
I offer my sympathy and my condolences on how terrible this is/has been. I'm not very good at expressing them, but they're yours.

I am good, however, at offering music. I don't know if there's anything here that fits with what you're looking for, but maybe something will catch your ear.
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Jan. 6th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC)
::many virtual hugs::
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