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Oh, flist, I need your help. I met with the minister who's doing the funeral service for my dad, and he wanted to know what kind of music to use, just a couple things, he said, but I have no idea what to use. I don't want to default to Amazing Grace, just... you know, because. Dad wasn't a music person much, not really, and we weren't even allowed to listen to pop music when I was a little kid because classical was all there was in my faux-intellectual household. Also, bagpipes. I don't even know.

Dad loved bagpipes, but I don't know that that's good small-service funeral stuff. A lot of people also don't like them. I was thinking maybe something a little lower key, like Uillean pipes, but I don't know of anything off the top of my head that might fit. I was going to go through some of my Celtic music, but the truth is, I haven't got time. I'm so behind on my work and my Festivid (though I finally was able to lay down a whole 30 seconds last night, W00t?) that searching through my music just fills me with dread.

So I turn to you. I only need a few things, but I am very open to suggestions on something peaceful but not gloomy, and bonus points for something vaguely Scottish. (On a side note, boy, do I wish I'd bought the vinyl of the soundtrack to the movie Restless Natives, done by Big Country, back when it was around. That would have been perfect.)

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Planning this thing has been really difficult. There's just so much to do. And I don't want to do any of it. Even though I've increased my anti-depressant dosage, I'm still just really struggling to get out of bed in the morning. Tilda was the main thing getting me up, but now that she's gone (sob), I just don't want to deal with anything. It's a different kind of depression, too, than I had about my sister. I think it's just that I feel so goddamn alone. Losing Sandy this year, and then Dad, it's just too much, I think. I would like to do something like go to Hawaii and sit on a beach or go on some exotic cruise, but I'm totally alone. Everything just feels really pointless.

Couple that with the fact that I hate ceremonies and there's no one here to help me through this one, I just want to hide. They were asking me about catering for it and I was all flaily, like "I don't want people to linger! I want them to go the fuck home and not talk to me!" But I can't say that. People want closure, they want to feel like they're contributing. However, the things I want them to do, since they keep offering in the most insistent way, they won't or can't do. So I have to put on my smiley face when I really just want to make them go away, and go back to bed.

I also want to read Yuletide fic. I've managed to squeeze in two whole stories beyond my own, but that's not nearly enough.

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destina
Dec. 30th, 2011 01:32 am (UTC)
*sends you approximately a billion hugs* My thoughts have been with you. So much.

You know, there's some really beautiful music on the original Riverdance soundtrack. One song that has stayed with me - The Heart's Cry - but some beautiful instrumental/combined pieces, like Lament, and Lift the Wings, etc. I know, I know, Riverdance. But seriously. There's some pretty music on there. They do use Irish bagpipes, and it does sound more Irish than Scottish, but it's all quite lovely.

Edited at 2011-12-30 01:32 am (UTC)
batwrangler
Dec. 30th, 2011 01:37 am (UTC)
*hugs*

It's so hard to bury your parents -- we did all sorts of things "wrong" with Dad's. "Wrong" in that it bothers me *now* but it was the best we could do with what we had.

"The Bonnie Banks o' Loch Lomond" would be my go-to for Scottish and funereal.

Loreena McKennitt's "Bonny Portmore" might also work.
kirbyfest
Dec. 30th, 2011 02:01 am (UTC)
"Amazing Grace" does not have to be bagpipes, truly. It is absurdly beautiful even as a simple piano tune.

If you want background music, Elgar has some lovely pieces. And ask the minister if s/he has a music director that can help you. That's what they're there for.

I wish I could help.
darthhellokitty
Dec. 30th, 2011 02:45 am (UTC)
Did your father have any CDs he particularly liked?

I am drawing a complete blank, as usual, but I am thinking supportive thoughts.
raveninthewind
Dec. 30th, 2011 03:03 am (UTC)
music
*hugs*

I like this version of Amazing Grace:
http://www.youtu.be/watch?v=u5e6IN_YbwM

This music is gorgeous--The song featured in this video is "We Will Remember Them" and features Isla St Clair singing "Flowers of the Forest," followed by a bagpipe lament played by Pipe Major Brian Heriot. Available at ITunes:
http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/pipes-drums-from-helmand-to/id441370539?uo=4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LnLz6mVUk4

Another song for the pipes if you go that direction--Farewell to Lord Louis Mountbatten:
ww.youtube.com/watch?v=18wrNcTAFtA

If you like classical: Albinoni Adagio in G Minor is lovely.I couldn't find the James Galway version, but the cello one by Julian Lloyd Webber is one of my favorites, too: http://www.youtu.be/watch?v=AHkpzVAOZ_0

And this Bach Prelude from Cello Suite No.1 in G is so poignant:
http://www.youtu.be/watch?v=wKEgAn7bLgk
gwyn_r
Dec. 30th, 2011 07:30 am (UTC)
Re: music
HOW have I managed to go through life without hearing Isla St. Clair before?! That is lovely. I DLed the link from iTunes and there was another lovely song there, called Fare Thee Well, that I think will work well. Found some other ones poking around in the suggestions. But wow, she's lovely and I can't believe I didn't know about her (so much for my being songclopedia!).

I've always loved the Albinoni Adagio -- I have it on my favorite record, which I got from mom and dad years ago, and pretty much all the songs on it are my favorites, especially the Meditation from Thais and the adagio. I'll make them a disc and just let them pick.
sdwolfpup
Dec. 30th, 2011 03:29 am (UTC)
I was going to also recommend Riverdance. And I'm sending you massive hugs.
soundingsea
Dec. 30th, 2011 04:41 am (UTC)
Seems like every (Irish) funeral I go to, there's one rendition or another of "Danny Boy". (Sometimes even with bagpipes.)

*hugs*
mackiemesser
Dec. 30th, 2011 05:05 am (UTC)
I offer my sympathy and my condolences on how terrible this is/has been. I'm not very good at expressing them, but they're yours.

I am good, however, at offering music. I don't know if there's anything here that fits with what you're looking for, but maybe something will catch your ear.
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fishsanwitt
Jan. 6th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC)
::many virtual hugs::
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