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Dad died last night. His birthday was coming soon, on the 27th, and he would have been 87, which is how I'm going to think of him in terms of age. Until last Christmas, he did not act like an 86-year-old -- he was still picking me up at the airport when I traveled, taking care of me with financial planning advice, that sort of thing. It's been a hard year for him, and for me. Now I'm all alone and it feels really empty. Even when he drove me out of my mind, he was my dad, and I had family.

Apparently he coded right after I left the ER to take care of the menagerie at home. Every time they thought they stabilized him, he coded again. I still don't understand why they sent him home the first time when you could see how bad off he was.

I don't think I can answer comments, but I guess I won't turn them off right now. But I'll take it as given, and you're not obliged to comment. Instead I'd refer you to this post about how he earned a bronze star in WWII, as well as a couple other posts of things he wrote to me about his service. I think they paint a better picture of him than anything I could say.

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falzalot
Dec. 19th, 2011 07:42 pm (UTC)
{{{{hugs}}}} I'm sorry for your loss.
sdwolfpup
Dec. 19th, 2011 07:56 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you my love and hugs. I wish we were in town right now so I could do it in person.
(Anonymous)
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:00 pm (UTC)
Many, many *hugs*
lost2mercy
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:06 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you a warm hug!
silk_knickers
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:15 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss.
ann1962
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:17 pm (UTC)
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for linking to that post. Incredible!!!
feochadn
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:20 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry for your loss -- he was a cool guy. I'll always remember the day we spent up the ladders chipping and sanding old paint on the side of your house while he told us stories.
killabeez
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:34 pm (UTC)
Well, shit, hon. I know you must be in shock. If you need a hand with anything at all, I'm here.

I'm so sorry. I know how much time and care you've given him, and can only imagine how weird and sudden this feels.

Hang in there. {{{{{{}}}}}}
dualbunny
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:43 pm (UTC)
{{{hugs}}}
kerithwyn
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:47 pm (UTC)
So very sorry. Keeping you in my thoughts.
vonniek
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:51 pm (UTC)
I'm so very sorry for your loss. *hugs you*
marycrawford
Dec. 19th, 2011 08:55 pm (UTC)
Agh, I'm so sorry! You don't have to answer this at all, it's just to say I'm thinking of you. *hugs*
mollyamory
Dec. 19th, 2011 09:30 pm (UTC)
*HUG*

No need to reply to this, naturally. But I wanted to say - that's one of the fears I've admitted to my friends, too. That being all alone thing. My family has never been all that extended, and when my dad is gone, it'll be just me and my brothers. Which is to say, just me.

But my friends remind me, and I'm sure your local friends will remind you too -- family isn't all about your blood or who you grew up with. We're family too, and we love you. *HUG* again.
settiai
Dec. 19th, 2011 09:47 pm (UTC)
*hugs you*
hobbituk
Dec. 19th, 2011 09:49 pm (UTC)
I am so very sorry. I know the hole that is left when your dad passes away - it has been 14 years since I lost mine, and I still miss him.

Sending you *Hugs* and my sincere sympathies.
movies_michelle
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:09 pm (UTC)

I am so sorry for your loss.
gamiila
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:15 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry to hear your news. Your father was a remarkable man.
molly_may
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:22 pm (UTC)
As inadequate as the words are, I am so sorry for your loss. You'll be in my thoughts.
deejay
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:47 pm (UTC)
{{{there be hugs here}}}
zebra363
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:53 pm (UTC)
Thinking of you.
sol_se
Dec. 19th, 2011 10:55 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry.
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unovis
Dec. 19th, 2011 11:05 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm keeping a good thought for you.
flatlanddan
Dec. 19th, 2011 11:09 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry :( *hugs*
ixchel55
Dec. 19th, 2011 11:26 pm (UTC)
I remember reading about your father's bronze star and being quite impressed. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear. *hugs*
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